Merry CHRISTmas!

Wishing everyone a very Merry Christmas & Happy New Year! Be blessed and don’t FORGET the reason for this season 🙂

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Stay You & Enjoy,

~Queen ❤

One More Time

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Picture this: November 28th, 2012, three days before a family member’s wedding. You have the outfit all figured out, accessories to match and NO shoes! That was me two weeks ago. After searching in every store and boutique in NYC for the perfect heels, I finally went to Macy’s. I wanted the shoe chase to be over. Little did I know Macy’s was having a “one-day sale”. (I mean, when are they not?!) Everything around me was hectic.

After looking around shortly in the shoe department,  I found a cute BCBG platform heel. I asked a salesman for my size and tried it on. It fit perfectly! It was like… “Cinderella and the glass slipper”. 🙂Unknown-1

However, before I could crack a smile, the salesman told me my shoes weren’t paired in the box. I tried on the left side but the right side had to be found somewhere on the sales floor. I would have to find it in order to make the purchase.

That struck a chord in me because all I wanted to do was go home but I was confident I could find the other shoe. So I looked EVERYWHERE. I even asked random people to help me.I was focused! …Until half an hour later, I came to the realization that the shoe was nowhere to be found. I gave up and went home.

The next day I decided to try again. I looked at some different shoe stores but the heels I wanted at Macy’s were still on my mind. I knew in my heart they had to be there. So, I went back.

images-1I searched all over again and I asked a sales woman to help me. I said “Mam, I really want those shoes”. She told me there was a bin in the back that she would check. I never heard of this bin yesterday, so I got excited.

Five minutes later she came back with both shoes in the box! A beautiful pair of black-suede glittered platform BCBG heels. I never lost hope!

Through everything, the lesson I learned was: when you REALLY REALLY want something and you don’t get it the first time around but you still believe it’s possible and perfect for you, try one more time.

Don’t let something you like and/or love go, without attempting a different approach. That shoe could have been anywhere!images-4 But because I was determined and patient, I got what I came for. Even though I didn’t get it on the first day, with the first attempt.

Therefore, whatever you want, whatever is on your mind… don’t let it go so easily. If you believe it suits you perfectly, like a pair of black-suede platform heels, go back and GET it. Try one more time! 🙂

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Matthew 7:7 ~””Ask and it will be given to you; Seek and you will find; Knock and the door will be opened to you.”

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On the “Be Encouraged” page (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/” https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/ ) find a priceless speech from the brilliant Steve Jobs at the 2005 Standford University Commencement.

Featured this week under “Ohemma’s Words“, (https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) is a poem titled ” Billet Doux” ~>that’s french for Love Letter …. xoxoxo

Lastly, “It is Written…” (https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/) has an article from Black Enterprise, about seeking a mentor in your career field. Let me know how their advice works out for you!

Stay you & enjoy,

~Queen

Say “I Do!”

“There is a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.” ~Kenneth Blanchard

Time to make a commitment! It doesn’t have to be the beginning of a new year or one’s wedding ceremony to pledge allegiance to a goal and/or person.

Personally, when I hear the word “commit” I wonder if I’ve ever done such a thing, wholeheartedly.The answer is yes but not for as long as I would have liked. Although it is great to say “I’m all in!” It can also be kind of scary, without realistic planning.

It is as simple to start out with an idea, as it is effortless to not see it through. This goes for relationships as well. Of course there is a difference between no longer being passionate vs. quitting. So, before you devote your time and attention to a subject, THINK. Be certain. Then embrace discipline. Meaning for better or worse, in sickness and in health, you go through with your decision…On the days you feel like it and especially on those days you don’t.

Michael Phelps, American swimmer and the most decorated Olympian of all time, once practiced EVERYDAY for 5 years straight to make it to the Olympic team. 365 days he said “I do!” to HIS dreams. Sean Garrett aka “The Pen”, one of the best songwriters in the music industry told me, “As a writer you should be writing every day. Even if you just sit there for an hour and nothing comes out on paper…dedicate the time to your craft.”

If you want to start your own business, declare “I do!” Then YOU must live and breathe it. Become the business… If you want to act, sing, teach and/or build houses, whatever it may be, work your way to that goal! Prepare and practice steadfastly. Memorize lines, rehearse songs and even “elevator pitches”, should an opportunity present itself with the right person.

I’m going to make my personal discipline sheet and everyday besides what I do in my spare time, I will set aside one hour to write and 15 minutes to read. I might have to give some activities up, like going out, watching TV, talking on the phone, etc… but I’m going to focus and commit. It would be my honor if we could start together and encourage one another to FINISH. Will you join me? If so, please say “I do!”…

On the “Be Encouraged” page (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/) find an excerpt from “The Power to Commit” by Author and Motivational Speaker, Jill Koeing.

Posted under Ohemma’s Words, (https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) find some of my original creative writing.

Lastly, “It is Written…” (“https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/) features one of my FAVORITE poems, “Live for You” by Sara Gunderson. I read it when I was twelve and loved it ever since. Hope you do too 🙂

Stay you & enjoy,

~Queen

Appreciate the Darkness

I am a New Yorker & this past week certainly was tough. Hurricane Sandy came slow and left quick but made quite an impression. Ms. Sandy had me living in the dark! Some people still are. No electricity and I had no hot water. I actually thought I had it bad, until I went outside the morning after and noticed I wasn’t the only one without electricity. Everyone in my neighborhood was without power. As I read the paper and listened to the news, I learned there were many others throughout the tri-state area who had also been affected and lost their homes. Tragic stories of flooding, fallen trees, etc… I realized I didn’t have it bad at all. So I did not complain. I just learned the lesson.  As everything has a lesson wrapped up in it…

Until this hurricane and being without electrical energy, I never cared about being able to charge my phone and/or laptop. I flipped on switches in my house naturally and water was always cold and ready for me in my fridge. It took complete dimness to make me value the light and not just in my house but within my life.

It may sound crazy but I am actually grateful of being stuck in the house post Hurricane Sandy. The silence allowed me to calm down and think. I was able to go outside, look up and really see the stars at night and whenever the wind did pass by, the sound was music to my ears.

I am truly thankful for the darkness because I got to spend time with my family, as well as my friends.

All this to say, in your moment of darkness, don’t always be so quick to run from it because there’s a blessing in everything and things could always be worse.

In life, appreciate the darkness. It is a teacher but it doesn’t last forever.

Prayers go out to all who are still recovering from the storm…

On the “Be Encouraged” page ( “https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/” https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/ ) find a video clip of the GREAT Mike Tyson. He’s giving a lesson you don’t want to miss!

Posted under “Ohemma’s Words”, (https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) find a poem written by me at age 15. It’s titled “Days Like These”. I’m sure we’ve all had one….

Lastly, “It is Written…” (“https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/” https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/ ) has the “ABC’s of Success” by Wanda Hope Carter 🙂

Stay you and enjoy,

~Queen

In the Meantime…

Awareness is the first step in moving forward and/or making changes. Therefore, I always try to keep my mind focused on the present moment.  In doing so, my frequent thought is always on where I am in life in comparison to where I want to be. Currently, I know I am in special place within my journey…

I am right above the starting level but not quite close to the end, my goals…. I haven’t completely figured out my purpose but I am aware of what makes me happy. I am not stuck but I do sometimes feel unsure of my decisions.

So until things fully come together, this part of my life I will call, “in the meantime”…

I’ve heard many pastors say “in life you must to know what season you’re in”. I now understand why knowing your season is important because my “in the meantime” could be different from yours. This could possibly be my time to do as much research as I can, on all the endeavors I want to embark. For another, their “in the meantime” could consist of working and saving, tests and testimonies or just having patience in general.

If you don’t know what phase you’re in, you won’t know how to act nor react to the circumstances and situations of your life. You’ll just be going through them but you may miss key points which were meant to help you.

I decided in this stage of my life to use my time to get ready. I will plan for whatever it is I am expecting.“It is better to be prepared for an opportunity and not have one than to have an opportunity and not be prepared.”~Whitney Young, Jr. I will also be grateful in advance. I will make choices which will benefit me right now and not have everything I do only be profitable in the future because tomorrow is not promised.  I will support others and help them along their way, the best way I know how. I will be happy and make use of all my resources and continue to maintain good relationships. Lastly, I will continue to work on me.

Until all your dreams and aspirations come true, what will you be doing “in the meantime”?….

On the “Be Encouraged” page (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/ ) find a list of my “It is Possible” people…

Posted under Ohemma’s Words, (https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) find a new and original poem of mine, dedicated to Breast Cancer Awareness, titled “Do It For Her”.

Lastly, “It is Written…” (https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/ ) has an excerpt from “My Utmost For His Highest”!…A devotional book which I read everyday 🙂

Stay you and enjoy,

~Queen

Talk to Someone

The surface is everything we see when we open our eyes. It is everything I see. The outside since it is visible, can also easily be labeled because it stems from a point of view. However, when you want to go deeper things get a bit more complicated, particularly when dealing with people.

What if you have encouraging words that could change someone’s life and/or affect their next decision, in a positive way… how would you know?

If you only look at the exterior of a person and never speak to them, how would you know exactly what’s going on internally? Don’t depend on a smile because those can and will be fake.  You can’t rely on an “I’m okay” because that is a generic response.

For example, a car can appear shiny and gorgeous from the outside but when you actually try to drive it, it may not be able to move. You have to check the inside and make sure the engine is right. As beautiful as the car is, if the inside is screwed up, the car is useless.

Therefore, once a week, I challenge you to seek out at least one person and make it you’re mission to converse with them. Whether it is friend, family or stranger, see what they are about. You may discover you have more similarities than you thought. You may even have advice that could change a person’s entire situation and because you never spoke it, they never heard and the life changing took so long!

Go deeper than the obvious and you’ll be surprised! Everyone has a story, but not many people have someone to tell it to.

On the “Be Encouraged” page (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/ ) find a list of events, shows, organizations, and ways to get involved in NYC! Freebies included.

Posted under Ohemma’s Words, (https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) find a poem, titled “An Alliance”, written in 2005.

Lastly, “It is Written…” (https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/ ) debuts poetry from Sabrina D. Phillips, titled “The Perfect Friend”. One of my new favorites!

As always,    

Stay you and enjoy, 🙂

~Queen

What YOU Deserve…

It’s easy to take what you can get. However patience brings about many good things. Sometimes you have to forget what you want and remember what you deserve. You can search for a person, place or thing to bring you happiness but you deserve to have everything that is good, in search of you.  We often forget who we are while in a fast-paced world and we begin to chase everything. Trying to make the best out of any situation. However, not all situations are the best for us.  Some situations are a part of your destiny but they are not your destination.

DID YOU KNOW ….

  • You have the right to be free, to choose yourself first.
  • You are worthy of respect and appreciation.
  • You are great & that you truly DESERVE the best of what life has to offer….

There’s just one catch.  You have to put in the work!  And once you do, no one will ever be able to tell you what you’ve earned. You will know and have it the other way around.

There’s something that you’ve always wanted, that you’ve dreamed about, and deep in your heart you are certain of. It has your name on it and you will receive it because it’s already yours. It’s just a matter of time.

Don’t take what you can get. Don’t settle! Don’t grab, steal, or lure any person, place or thing. Always remember what you deserve 🙂

On the “Be Encouraged” page (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/ ) find a clip of the legendary Les Brown. He has a message for you! Posted under “It is Written…” (https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/ ) an excerpt from best-selling author, Joyce Meyer’s “Battlefield of the Mind”. Ladies & gentlemen you’re in for a treat!

As always, I appreciate the love & feedback!

Stay you and enjoy,

~Queen 

I Had Given Up…

I never want to write anything that isn’t sincere. I never want to give advice that I wouldn’t listen to nor am I currently acting upon. I always want to promote others to be a better version of themselves & if I can make someone’s day by a simple sweet gesture, I do so.

There came a time when I felt I couldn’t do what is listed above. I had given up on myself and even doing anything at all. It was much easier to be complacent and do nothing but yet it became painful. This is because when you know there are great gifts placed inside of you, to help others, it can be frustrating not to share it. I had given up…anything that was a part of my plans, I stopped doing.  However, the mind-set that was meant to harm me was actually used for my good. In stopping, I was able to reflect and reconsider. I examined what was going on around me and why exactly I felt giving up was my only option.  The first question I asked myself was “why’d I begin half of the things I was doing in the first place?”

Before even answering that question it became apparent to me, that I was making my decision based on my circumstances rather than what I know to be true about myself… I start all my endeavors primarily out of love and also excitement. The thought of succeeding makes me happy. I just had to remember the beginning and everything was placed back into perspective…

Moral of the story is:  Now, whenever I feel like giving up because of my circumstances and the fear of non-favorable outcomes, I think of the beginning and why I started to begin with. Those thoughts and feelings allow me the momentum I need to keep going.

So when you feel like giving up on a situation, a person, and/or yourself, just remember the love and excitement; why you started in the first place. We’re all human every day isn’t going to be easy but I’m glad to say “I had given up”, (past tense) because now I can continue, (future tense) as if I just started, stronger and better than ever!!

On “Be Encouraged” (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/ ) find out  how to prepare your personal Life Kit!

Posted under Ohemma’s Words, (https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) a poem, titled “To Keep Alive”.

Lastly, “It is Written…” (https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/ ) features lyrics of my top ten hopeful songs !

Don’t give up, we’re almost there! 

Stay you and enjoy,

~Queen

“Who do you love?”


Who do you love” is a commonly used phrase and song title. One artist in particular that used this was LL cool J, back in 96’. It is also a sincere question…Who do you love? In this day in age, the question could possibly be answered easier if rephrased as, “what do you love?” Many times we go throughout life investing money, passion and time into things, more than we do a person … which is not much of an opportunity cost because at the end of the day people are always worth more, especially those closest to us.

Last year, same day different time, someone very close to me was in a car accident. My mom.  She had this…

And was taken out through the cut roof of this …

However, my mother is favored by an Awesome God, who grants protection and grace. So she left the hospital without one scratch. Things could have went differently but THANK God they didn’t. Today is also the day we remember the heroes and innocent lives taken in 2001, due to terrorism. All this to say, nothing and no one is promised nor guaranteed.  So when you figure out whom you love as opposed to what you love… Go ahead and tell em’!

Posted under Ohemma’s Words,(https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) find a poem, titled “I Know a Woman” & if you know of a great woman, don’t hesitate to share those words with her.

Found on the “Be Encouraged” page (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/) is my real definition of love.

Lastly, “It is Written…” (https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/ ) has my favorite poem from the living legend herself, Maya Angelou!

Stay you and enjoy, 

~Queen

Hello Beautiful People!

Have you ever heard the declaration “knowledge equals power”?  I find this to be true.  However in addition to that statement I also say, “Belief gives you strength”.  There are many things I was never educated on and only my intuition and faith were used as a guide. Sometimes when there is nothing definite to rely on, everything will come down to, “what do you believe? “

Pertaining to yourself, your goals, your family, your job and your future? …

Two months ago my Mom and 11-year old niece came with me to an audition. I was very nervous. At the audition location there came a certain point, where only the person trying out could enter. I was out of luck! If I wanted to continue forward, I had to go alone…  The service at the location was very bad and during my waiting period, all I could do was text.  I text-ed my Mom and many others, needing confirmation that I could do it, that everything would be fine.

Then my niece wrote me through my Mom’s phone and as I was giving a million and one reasons about why I was anxious, she said “believe in yourself”.  The words were so simple but it hit me like a baseball bat!

I NEVER knew that I had the permission to believe in my own self. I’ve heard the statement before but now it registered. There will come a point in time where you will be left alone and no one can give you advice, their opinion and/or predictions about the future. No one will be able to make a decision for you and it will be up to you, to believe in yourself; that you can and will do whatever it is that you set out to do.

And you don’t have to wait to be on your own, you can start believing right now…

On “Be Encouraged” (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/ ) find an excerpt from best-selling author, John Mason’s – “You Can Do It- Even If Others Say You Can’t”.

Posted under Ohemma’s Words, (https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) find a poem, titled “Special” written by me at 15 years old.

Lastly, “It is Written…” (https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/ ) has my ULTIMATE book list, including classics such as The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho.  As well as the books I’m reading next!

**I thank everyone who supports me, who believes. It is greatly appreciated. Please don’t forget as you read the pages on this site, to also spread the words. It is my aim to encourage each one, enlighten someone and most importantly love everyone.

Stay you and enjoy,

~Queen

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