The Beauty of “NO”

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“I’ve learned that working with the negative can make for better pictures…”~Drake

Quick story: I have a close friend who was dating a guy over the summer of 2012. She really liked him. Everything was going well and then he started to act funny towards her. My friend has a very no-nonsense attitude, so the minute she noticed his actions she told him how she felt. He became distant and they stopped speaking. She never understood why things didn’t work out. She wondered for a while, “what could she have done to change their outcome ?”. To her, it felt like rejection but as time passed she got over it.

Fast-forward to the beginning of January 2013. One day my friend was in her house preparing to go out and her television was on the news channel. As she walked opposite of where her TV was to grab a jacket, she heard the news reporter say “a man is wanted for the shooting of his ex-girlfriend and the murder of the ex-girlfriend’s mother”. For some reason my friend’s intuition (I call it God’s voice) told her to see who that man was. However, by the time she got to the TV the guy’s picture was taken off. She just sat and paid attention to the story and then the picture was shown again. The same “wanted” guy shown on the news channel was the guy she dated in the summer time!!!

I have asked my friend for permission to share her story and my outlook.The lesson I received was this….

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At times, we as human beings want things to be ideal and go our way. This can be in relation to anything; our career, education, love life, even the traffic flow on random highways, etc…And when things don’t go as planned and/or we feel rejected, we get disappointed.

As I’ve gotten older, I have become aware and accepted that life will NEVER go the way I’ve planned! So I don’t really plan much. Don’t get me wrong, I have goals and things I want to accomplish but the way I will go about achieving them is not set in stone. I am open to “life”, everything expected and unexpected. I’m no longer basing the life given to me on my time-frame. I am also open to INEVITABLE rejection…

In my friend’s situation, it seemed the “no” she received was from the guy she was dating. I believe the “no” was from God. The guy’s rejection allowed her to avoid something bigger than she could have ever imagined. He obviously was capable of murder. My verdict is the “no” worked out in her favor.

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My friend is now thankful for her “no” and besides that word being said, it is also wise to say it. Not EVERY thing is meant for you and your well-being. “No”  can  save you from things seen and unseen and it can also promote you in its own way.

I say, be appreciative of all the “no’s” you’ve ever received and/or had to say. When you’re late to that interview and/or work, when that guy/girl doesn’t call back, when you don’t get accepted to that program, and even when you get lost along the way….BE THANKFUL.

KNOW that everything will work out for YOUR good. For I find there to be so much power and beauty in the word, “NO”!

*On the “Be Encouraged” page (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/” https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/ ) find a touching and motivational one-minute clip.

*Featured this week under Ohemma’s Words, (https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) is an original poem titled “My Possession” by yours truly!

*Lastly, “It is Written…” (https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/) has two poems from one of my favorite books of all time, Langston Hughes’ “The Dream Keeper”!

Stay you & enjoy,

~ Queen

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Save the Date!!

Unknown-12012. What a year! A year that came and went, filled with memories that will never be forgotten.

Unknown-2• Top of this year, January 17th, I celebrated the 5th anniversary of receiving my driver’s license. I should’ve also been getting the “Best Driver Ever” award! 🙂

• January 19th, my adorable niece turned 5 years old and January 20th, a piece of my heart went on to be with the Lord. The only Grandmother I had left and ever knew, passed away.

• March 14th, I bumped into an old friend who taught me a lot of new lessons and March 15th, I performed at a showcase. I still get excited when I look back at the footage. I can actually say “I did it!”

• April 8th, my gorgeous baby niece turned one and on June 23rd, my family had my Grandmother’s home going service.

• July 22nd, my Uncle who was also my friend, passed away unexpectedly. I gained a second angel.

• In August, my writing was published for the 1st time in a national magazine and on August 21st, as a birthday gift to myself, I started THIS blog!  faith

• September 8th, 2012, my oldest niece turned 12. Boy, how time flies! And on September 30th I was baptized, which was a beautiful experience. I also lost another Uncle…

• October 2nd, my prince/nephew turned eight and October 15th, for the first time in my life, I went to a Brandy concert. (Loved her since I was a child!)

• In November, I was voted treasurer of my choir, and in December I paid off one of my oldest credit cards and THAT is a big deal ladies and gentlemen!…

Meaningful occurrences in my life I always try to write down and most of the time I do. It is not because I won’t remember but actually being able to see a list of all that I’ve been through, boosts my confidence; not in myself but in the Lord. I am happy to know that whatever life throws at me, predicted and/or unexpected, God is ALWAYS there.

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Isaiah 43:2

When you pass through the waters,
I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers,
they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the fire,
you will not be burned;
the flames will not set you ablaze.”

Every person and/or event that is significant should be cherished. The evidence of your strength, the warmth of your joyous days and life-changing moments, should always be documented. It’s all apart of your testimony!

Should you go through a situation which you are unsure of, knowing a date can make all the difference because if God did it before, HE’ll do it again.

So going forth this year, whenever something remarkable  happens– don’t forget to save the date!

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Happy New Year family!

On the “Be Encouraged” page (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/ ) find a simple reminder that can KEEP you at ease, for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!

Featured this week under Ohemma’s Words, (https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) is my original poem titled  “Healing Phase”.

Lastly, “It is Written…” (“https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/) has the top 10 reasons YOU should keep a journal in 2013!

Stay you & enjoy,

~Queen

Appreciate the Darkness

I am a New Yorker & this past week certainly was tough. Hurricane Sandy came slow and left quick but made quite an impression. Ms. Sandy had me living in the dark! Some people still are. No electricity and I had no hot water. I actually thought I had it bad, until I went outside the morning after and noticed I wasn’t the only one without electricity. Everyone in my neighborhood was without power. As I read the paper and listened to the news, I learned there were many others throughout the tri-state area who had also been affected and lost their homes. Tragic stories of flooding, fallen trees, etc… I realized I didn’t have it bad at all. So I did not complain. I just learned the lesson.  As everything has a lesson wrapped up in it…

Until this hurricane and being without electrical energy, I never cared about being able to charge my phone and/or laptop. I flipped on switches in my house naturally and water was always cold and ready for me in my fridge. It took complete dimness to make me value the light and not just in my house but within my life.

It may sound crazy but I am actually grateful of being stuck in the house post Hurricane Sandy. The silence allowed me to calm down and think. I was able to go outside, look up and really see the stars at night and whenever the wind did pass by, the sound was music to my ears.

I am truly thankful for the darkness because I got to spend time with my family, as well as my friends.

All this to say, in your moment of darkness, don’t always be so quick to run from it because there’s a blessing in everything and things could always be worse.

In life, appreciate the darkness. It is a teacher but it doesn’t last forever.

Prayers go out to all who are still recovering from the storm…

On the “Be Encouraged” page ( “https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/” https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/ ) find a video clip of the GREAT Mike Tyson. He’s giving a lesson you don’t want to miss!

Posted under “Ohemma’s Words”, (https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) find a poem written by me at age 15. It’s titled “Days Like These”. I’m sure we’ve all had one….

Lastly, “It is Written…” (“https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/” https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/ ) has the “ABC’s of Success” by Wanda Hope Carter 🙂

Stay you and enjoy,

~Queen

“Who do you love?”


Who do you love” is a commonly used phrase and song title. One artist in particular that used this was LL cool J, back in 96’. It is also a sincere question…Who do you love? In this day in age, the question could possibly be answered easier if rephrased as, “what do you love?” Many times we go throughout life investing money, passion and time into things, more than we do a person … which is not much of an opportunity cost because at the end of the day people are always worth more, especially those closest to us.

Last year, same day different time, someone very close to me was in a car accident. My mom.  She had this…

And was taken out through the cut roof of this …

However, my mother is favored by an Awesome God, who grants protection and grace. So she left the hospital without one scratch. Things could have went differently but THANK God they didn’t. Today is also the day we remember the heroes and innocent lives taken in 2001, due to terrorism. All this to say, nothing and no one is promised nor guaranteed.  So when you figure out whom you love as opposed to what you love… Go ahead and tell em’!

Posted under Ohemma’s Words,(https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) find a poem, titled “I Know a Woman” & if you know of a great woman, don’t hesitate to share those words with her.

Found on the “Be Encouraged” page (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/) is my real definition of love.

Lastly, “It is Written…” (https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/ ) has my favorite poem from the living legend herself, Maya Angelou!

Stay you and enjoy, 

~Queen