As I Get Older…

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Hello my lovely butterflies,

Today is the one year anniversary of OhemmaWrites.com!!!

I am so proud and blessed to say that I have written my thoughts and shared my feelings with YOU for an ENTIRE year.

In return YOU have inspired, appreciated and supported my initiative unconditionally.

Thank you!

“OhemmaWrites” is not only about my passion for words, but also my love of art.
So be on the look out for brand NEW additions to the OhemmaWrites page.

OhemmaWrites.com will be filled with MORE poetry, MORE music, MORE personal posts and of course MORE positivity!!

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Now, as some of you may know and for those which don’t, I launched the OhemmaWrites website last year in 2012, on my birthday, August 21st!

It was my gift to myself. A project I started and loved. My vision, my work and my words came to life through OhemmaWrites.com and I am still extremely grateful.

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Since the start of OhemmaWrites in 2012 up until today, many things haveUnknown-3 occurred in my life. All experiences were necessary to get me to where I am today, and as much as they moved me, they also grew me.

Officially being a year older and a bit wiser, I believe in the statement, “the more love and knowledge you share, the more that will come back to you .”

So as a 24th birthday gift to myself, today, I wanted to spread my wisdom and share my “OhemmaWrites list of the 24 things I know to be true” based on the years I’ve been alive.

Here it goes!

“OhemmaWrites List of the 24 things I know to be true”

1. Don’t confuse the ppl who are always around with the ones who are always there. There’s a difference.
2. You can be a good person and still make bad choices. It’s what makes us human.
3. Help can come from unexpected people, places and things. Always embrace it and be grateful.
4. Acceptance of the things you can’t control makes everything better.
5.Time makes everything better.
6. Be patient, be still. Things have a way of working themselves out.
7. It’s wonderful, fun and comforting to have an advocate at home, in the workplace and generally in life , but with or with out, your greatest ally must be you.
8. There’s no growth when you are comfortable. Be uncomfortable.
9. It’s okay to not know. (I.e. life, career, relationships…)
God guides best when YOU don’t know because HE does. Let go and let HIM use you.
10. Music can heal. Find that one song that always makes you feel better & don’t be afraid to play it, All the time!..
11. Trust your gut, even when things don’t make sense. The gut doesn’t lie.
12.A person who really loves you never gives up on you, no matter the time, problems or distance. If they do, they never really loved you. Love is patient.
13. Smile at strangers now and again, you never know what they’re going through. Smiling may even help YOU as you’re going through…& You WILL make it through!!!
14. It’s okay to change your mind.
15. Happiness is a choice.
16. Don’t wait for life to throw something big at you before you pause and pay attention. Appreciate and notice the little signs. The details.
17. “Find what you love & let it kill you”- Bukowski ..is the best quote for following your passion.
18. It’s okay to want company but always be content with just your own.
19. Books are beautiful,read some and tell people about it.
20. God doesn’t always give you what you ask for but he WILL always supply all your needs. Even if there is only 1% of faith left in you, don’t let go. Always believe things will turn around and one day they will.
21. “You don’t need a certain amount of friends, only a friend you can be certain of”… & that’s real.
22. Loving yourself is an everyday process, don’t get frustrated. Everybody’s going through the process.
23.At the end of the day, YOU have to live with YOU. Make sure YOU’RE someone YOU can be proud of.
24. Writing, singing, talking, any form of expression is the best feeling in the world. Try it. Often!

Iv’e learned, as I got older…

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I appreciate you all!!!

My OhemmaWrites subscibers/followers/friends, this year will be BETTER than before. Claim your victory and you shall receive it.

I hope some thing I have shared with you via OhemmaWrites.com has been beneficial.

Make sure to follow OhemmaWrites on ALL social networks and keep YOUR positivity flowing at all times!!

Love you very much!!

Stay you & enjoy,
~ Queen
Xoxoxo

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Life’s Greatest Question…

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First off I must say, I’ve missed all of my OhemmaWrites readers and followers soooo very much!

I haven’t updated this site in a while because as you all know “life” happens.
Still, in the midst of “life” happening, I’ve managed to continue my observations of the beauty and humor in it all.….

During my hiatus from writing, I was reading.

Recently I finished an AMAZING book titled, “Peace from Broken Pieces”  by Iyanla Vanzant.

Ms.Vanzant, by the way, is one of my favorite inspirational and spiritual teachers!

I would like to recommend “Peace from Broken Pieces” to EVERYONE .

Especially women of all ages.  It is a MUST READ!… Peace-from-Broken-Pieces-Vanzant-Iyanla-9781401928223

Since I love the illustrative and creative use of words, I highlighted a lot of  “Peace from Broken Pieces”. However, there was one passage in particular which I read and instantaneously memorized.

I would like to share it with YOU.

The quote was:

” When you don’t know who you are

Chances are you don’t know what you want,

When you don’t know what you want

There is no chance for you to get it”

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Powerful. Simple. And makes SO much sense. (Re-read it if necessary!)

This statement changed my life. I’m sure.

The only way to be content, happy and successful is to get what you want but first you must KNOW what you want… Not guess, not think but KNOW what you want. And it should never be told TO you.

Now, go a little deeper and you will find the true foundation for knowing what you want, is knowing who YOU really are….

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I personally had to stop and question myself …”Queen, who are you?”

If someone took away the hair from Brazil, the makeup, the nails, the friends, the family, the influence and pressure of society, with absolutely no money and no material things …who would I be?

If I removed all of the uncertainty, the masks, the lies, noise and distractions from YOUR life and asked you, “who are YOU?” …What would you reply?

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Who are you?

Because until YOU know the answer to that question, getting what you want is unlikely…

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The first step I decided to take in  figuring myself out  was acceptance and yes, as a 23-year old young woman, I am still learning to accept myself. Everything. Flaws and all.

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I am still in the acceptance phase and not only does it make me truly happy but it has brought about many good things…

I accept my natural hair. I accept my sense of style and what looks pretty to me. I accept my voice. I accept my attitude. I accept my vision. I accept where I’m  at in life and I accept where I’ve been . Most of all, I am grateful for everything, big and small.

Now, if I had to answer the question, “who are you?” At this very moment my response would be:

I am Queen S. Ofori, a daughter, a lover, a friend, a fighter, an old spirit in a young body, a writer, a comedian, a motivator and a child of GOD.

So, to all my beautiful and intelligent  “OhemmaWrites” readers and followers, begin the process of answering life’ greatest question, “Who are YOU?”  I declare new things will happen in your life as you discover the greatness which YOU have inside.

Always rememeber:

” When you don’t know who you are

Chances are you don’t know what you want,

When you don’t know what you want

There is no chance for you to get it”

…..

I want you to get it. So start answering “Life’s Greatest Question”!

It all starts with you.

Love you all.

~Queen

KEEP WALKING…

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Proud fact: I was born and raised in the Bronx, New York!

With that being so, I am not a stranger to loud noise and seeing unfamiliar faces throughout my community. However, during my sophomore year of high school I moved to Westchester, NY and I’ve been living there ever since. For the most part, my neighborhood is very well-kept and quiet. Should there ever be any uproar, because of where I grew up I’m sure I can adapt.

A couple weeks ago, on a friday night I decided to go to Manhattan. Instead of driving from my house I opted to take the metro north train. When my fun-filled night was over, I caught the same train and headed back home. I arrived at my train stop close to 1:00 am.

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As I was approaching the steps I saw a young lady (maybe 18 or 19 years old). She stood at the bottom of the stairway, looked up for a minute and then slowly started to walk away. I thought her behavior was kind of odd but I was not deterred. I continued walking. When I finally got to the bottom of the stairs I saw a group of people, mostly men, standing in front of the bar & grill by the top of the steps. I figured this is why the young lady turned away, she was either nervous and/or scared.

Growing up in the Bronx,NY and always being on the go, I’m use to seeing people at all times of the night, so I wasn’t uncomfortable.  Without hesitation I kept on walking up the steps and as I turned to my side, the young lady was a couple steps behind me. helping-hand

This occurrence spoke to me in many different and beautiful ways.

I used my past and where I came from to my advantage. I also wasn’t afraid to head towards the right direction. Regardless of who or what I saw in the beginning I stayed on course, taking the path I was initially set on and knew to be true. In doing so I motivated someone else.

Unknowingly in moving forward without hesitation, I set an example of courage. I thought the young lady had turned away but she was watching.

People are always watching you, for some reason or another.

race-badge-keep-moving-forwardThe young lady was not much younger than me but I was really glad when I saw her behind me. I felt like I taught her a lesson and played a small role in her life… for about two minutes :-).

At all times you have to be strong and make the best choices, not only for yourself but to pave the way for others. The steps could have represented many things, such as goals, dreams, big or small decisions and most importantly life.

If I would have turned away in front of that young lady, I would have been condoning and reinforcing that it was okay to inconvenience yourself and be intimidated by others. Which should never be the case! I demonstrated to her that she did not have to walk alone because our paths were similar.  I led the way. tumblr_m9dntljUl01qb0nmro1_500

Of course don’t go walking in dark alleyways throughout the middle of the night, just be conscious of your actions and decisions. You never know who wants to walk with you and/or behind you. You are the inspiration. Act like it!

You never know whose eyes are on you.

Everything you do and in every situation, someone is ALWAYS waiting to see if you’ll take those steps. Especially the younger generation. What will you do?

No matter the ease and/or difficulty, obstacles and/or circumstances in YOUR life, I hope you will always keep walking….

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On the “Be Encouraged” page (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/ ) find my TOP three encouraging songs of the week!

Under Ohemma’s Words, (https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) read my most recently written poem, titled “Notes”!

Lastly, “It is Written…” (“https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written) has one of my favorite poems of all time, written in the 1500’s! It’s definitely a classic.

As always stay you & enjoy,

~Queen

“On the Radio”…

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I absolutely love music. There are no perfect words to explain what it means to me and how it makes me feel. With this being so, I’ve been to many concerts, showcases and open mics. I also purchase tons of songs and albums.

One day as I was driving, an older song by pop star Rihanna began to play on the radio. It was actually her debut song, titled “Pon de Replay”  and it took me to a vivid memory.  Pon-De-Replay-Radio-Edit-Single

When I was 15 years old, my friend and I went to see Rihanna perform for free at Macy’s Herald Square. This mini-concert was promotion for her first album, titled “Music of the Sun”. No one really knew who Rihanna was and/or cared. However, Rihanna made a good impression on me and my friend. We really enjoyed her music and since it was free and close-by, we figured it would be worthwhile to check her out.

As we approached the area for Rihanna’s performance there were three people waiting. We were early enough to catch Rihanna’s soundcheck. There were no security, no cameras and no hype.

Rihanna even stood by me a couple of times and I didn’t say a thing. My friend and I just waited for her concert to begin and as it started more people began to surround the area.

Although people were listening and watching young “Ri-Ri”, New Yorkers are  such a tough crowd. There was no excitement whatsoever in the atmosphere.

Now look…


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More than 5 Grammys, Billboard hits, movies and perfumes later, Rihanna is a rich, global phenomenon! You can not find Rihanna walking through the same Macy’s in Herald Square or anywhere else in NYC, without a multitude of fans, paparazzi, and security having to shut down some areas.

Life is funny huh?!

You never know what God has in store for anyone, regardless of what they’ve been labeled and how much they’ve been ignored. More importantly, don’t ever be so sure about what God has in store for YOU.

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While standing next to Rihanna I could have never imagined that she would be as big as she is now but my imagination for her life didn’t really matter. What matters is my imagination for MY LIFE…

No matter what stage I have reached and no matter what stage YOU are at in your life, always plan big and dream bigger!

“No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him”–Corinthians 2:9

You can do anything in this WHOLE WIDE WORLD and be whoever you want to be.

Life is FOR you.

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Stay humble and persistent towards your goals. Rihanna is  human, just like you and I and if  she can do it, so can YOU.

ALWAYS remember that, especially when you hear her singing on the radio!

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On the “Be Encouraged” page (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/ ) find a powerful and inspirational clip titled “You Can Do This!” It’s sure to get you moving…

Under the “Ohemma’s Words” page (https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) are original poems by yours truly…

Lastly, the “It is Written…” page  (https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/) features a beautiful conversation between a Robin and a Sparrow, about faith! Don’t miss the blessing. Check it out!!

Stay you & enjoy,

~Queen

Just For YOU!

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Speak victory in your life. Smile and CHOOSE to be happy about nothing.

When I write, most of the time I’m encouraging myself but it brings me great joy to know other people are touched by what I share.

YOU are wonderful.  Every person is a beautiful butterfly. This is for YOU!

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“My Beautiful Butterfly”

I found a caterpillar one day
It didn’t know its worth…
For it was meant to fly
But it only knew of being on the ground, of pain & of hurt

So I picked up that caterpillar
and I told it to be strong
I said “circumstances are only temporary but your victories will last long”

The caterpillar didn’t care
The condition it was in was all it knew

I begged the caterpillar, “just trust me”
A change will come, very soon

And the day the caterpillar trusted me

It turned into a butterfly

Before flying away, it looked at me & simply asked, “why?…
why did you waste your time on me?”

I quickly replied…

“I saw beauty and potential, whenever I looked into your eyes
and that’s all that mattered.

At least to me.

You turning into what you were always supposed to become,
now that was all you.”

All you needed was time.…

My beautiful butterfly.

 ~By: Queen S. Ofori©

Victory Verse: Surely goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever.”Psalm 23:6

“It” Will Come…

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Brace yourself. This story is AMAZING! (Just Saying… 🙂 )

The first semester of my junior year in college was the first time I applied for internships. I was a TV/Film major, so I focused on acquiring an internship under a TV network and/or production company. Ironically, at that time, I was presented with an internship offer for an inspirational and spiritual website.

The website was the subdivision of a major TV-network. I was very interested in the opportunity and I decided to move forward in setting up an interview.

Throughout the process, I only communicated with one person via email. She was the senior editor for the “Inspiration, Love & Family” section of the website. Her name was so pretty and unique. I knew I would never forget it.

When we met, she explained all the tasks I would be performing if I accepted the internship. Duties such as: collecting inspirational quotes and poems, finding influential and captivating stories and coming up with new ideas for the website’s content. Even though this experience was about four years ago, the thought of conducting those assignments excited me. Maybe it was a sign 🙂

Down the line, I was chosen for the website’s internship but I had to decline. I wasn’t able to receive school credit. I ended up interning for a TV network instead. (No regrets! & more about that experience another time…)

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As I was preparing to launch THIS blog, I thought of the woman I dealt with from the website. She was such a lovely lady and when I couldn’t accept the internship with the website, she completely understood. She wished me well.

I figured she would be a great person to talk to because the website I was considering an internship with, had a lot in common with “OhemmaWrites” . Therefore I did the “Queen thing” and I wrote her. Unfortunately my email was re-sent back to me 😦

I tried contacting the website to see if she still worked there. She didn’t. At the time I didn’t think about searching for her through social media and since I had no other contact information of hers, I left it alone.

Although I really wanted to speak with her and let her know about my website, plus possibly get some helpful feedback/input, I didn’t stress it.

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Then last week, the morning of February 19th, as I was half asleep I heard my phone notify me of an email. I opened one eye to see where it was coming from. It turns out it was an article from a well-known site and instead of putting my phone down, I opened the email. The first thing I saw was the name of the lady I was looking for. I actually said wow! I never doubted the name, thinking it could be anyone else. I just knew it was her.

I clicked her name though the email and it led me to her personal page. Not only is she a writer of articles, she’s a minister, author of several books and the editor-in-chief of a brand new website.

I jotted down her listed email address and twitter handle. I couldn’t wait to contact her. Although I wasn’t sure if she would remember me and the whole internship situation, much less even respond back, I wrote to her anyway.  YOLO! (You. Only. Live. Once.)

She responded back right away. THE SAME DAY. She remembered me!!!… & God-willing we’ll be meeting up and having coffee next week… 🙂 🙂 🙂

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What was amazing to me about this experience was the assurance it gave me about life.

After I had searched and couldn’t find any information, I never expected to speak to this woman again. I let it go. I let things be. Her name, that email which led me to her, in essence came to me. Very effortlessly might I add. I didn’t have to struggle for it, I stopped asking around. I just lived my life. That email woke me up from my sleep, I wasn’t thinking about finding her anymore. I left it in God’s hands, knowing that if it were meant to be for us to get into contact, we would and we did.

My message for YOU is:  Whatever you’re stressing, whether it be a person, place or thing, job, money or wedding ring…just let it be. Keep living. Leave it alone. When you’re truly at peace and you least expect it, what you were once searching for, will come right to you. There won’t be a logical explanation behind it and there won’t be any complications. When circumstances are right, everything you need will be available.

Just trust life and certainly trust God.

Know that whatever  your heart is after, if it’s for you, in its own time “IT” will come…

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On the “Be Encouraged” page (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/) find a message from Ms. Oprah Winfrey. She speaks on “having faith like a mustard seed”…

Featured this week under Ohemma’s Words, (https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) is my poem “Billet Doux Pt. 2” . “Billet Doux” in french translates to “love letter”<3

Lastly, “It is Written…” (https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/) has the “7 Ways to Stop Hurting Yourself” a powerful article written by Angel of MarcandAngel.com!

Thank you all for your continued support and feedback/comments on OhemmaWrites.com! It is very much appreciated.

Stay you & enjoy,

~Queen

The Beauty of “NO”

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“I’ve learned that working with the negative can make for better pictures…”~Drake

Quick story: I have a close friend who was dating a guy over the summer of 2012. She really liked him. Everything was going well and then he started to act funny towards her. My friend has a very no-nonsense attitude, so the minute she noticed his actions she told him how she felt. He became distant and they stopped speaking. She never understood why things didn’t work out. She wondered for a while, “what could she have done to change their outcome ?”. To her, it felt like rejection but as time passed she got over it.

Fast-forward to the beginning of January 2013. One day my friend was in her house preparing to go out and her television was on the news channel. As she walked opposite of where her TV was to grab a jacket, she heard the news reporter say “a man is wanted for the shooting of his ex-girlfriend and the murder of the ex-girlfriend’s mother”. For some reason my friend’s intuition (I call it God’s voice) told her to see who that man was. However, by the time she got to the TV the guy’s picture was taken off. She just sat and paid attention to the story and then the picture was shown again. The same “wanted” guy shown on the news channel was the guy she dated in the summer time!!!

I have asked my friend for permission to share her story and my outlook.The lesson I received was this….

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At times, we as human beings want things to be ideal and go our way. This can be in relation to anything; our career, education, love life, even the traffic flow on random highways, etc…And when things don’t go as planned and/or we feel rejected, we get disappointed.

As I’ve gotten older, I have become aware and accepted that life will NEVER go the way I’ve planned! So I don’t really plan much. Don’t get me wrong, I have goals and things I want to accomplish but the way I will go about achieving them is not set in stone. I am open to “life”, everything expected and unexpected. I’m no longer basing the life given to me on my time-frame. I am also open to INEVITABLE rejection…

In my friend’s situation, it seemed the “no” she received was from the guy she was dating. I believe the “no” was from God. The guy’s rejection allowed her to avoid something bigger than she could have ever imagined. He obviously was capable of murder. My verdict is the “no” worked out in her favor.

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My friend is now thankful for her “no” and besides that word being said, it is also wise to say it. Not EVERY thing is meant for you and your well-being. “No”  can  save you from things seen and unseen and it can also promote you in its own way.

I say, be appreciative of all the “no’s” you’ve ever received and/or had to say. When you’re late to that interview and/or work, when that guy/girl doesn’t call back, when you don’t get accepted to that program, and even when you get lost along the way….BE THANKFUL.

KNOW that everything will work out for YOUR good. For I find there to be so much power and beauty in the word, “NO”!

*On the “Be Encouraged” page (https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/” https://ohemmawrites.com/be-encouraged/ ) find a touching and motivational one-minute clip.

*Featured this week under Ohemma’s Words, (https://ohemmawrites.com/ohemmas-words/) is an original poem titled “My Possession” by yours truly!

*Lastly, “It is Written…” (https://ohemmawrites.com/it-is-written/) has two poems from one of my favorite books of all time, Langston Hughes’ “The Dream Keeper”!

Stay you & enjoy,

~ Queen

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